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The Calm After the Storm

Hello fellow bloghoppers! I'm out of schoolwork for a while because I've been really sick out of all the stress. Days off are a must for pre-law students like me. I hope everyone else is doing fine in spite the terrible weather conditions. Here in the Philippines, you can never tell when it's going to be too hot, or too cold, or too wet or too dry. It's exhausting. :(

BUT ANYWAY. Lately I've been going through different types of moods, and just a few months ago I was on the verge of breaking down and nearly killing myself, literally. It made a huge impact on my health.

A lot of people may give you all kinds of advice when it comes to overcoming depression. It's not like there will ever be a perfect combination of things to do and people to trust in order to continue on a happy life. Nobody has that particular recipe that applies to everyone's sadness. You and I may have different taste buds, and get attracted to different types of clothing and boys, but seriously. Even if I'm not the most positive person I know, I've had a tremendous amount of downs in my life that has made me look at it under a brighter light.

Depression may come from all aspects that make a person emotionally dependent. You can base happiness on grades, on family, your pets, your car, your best friend, your enemies, your house, your food, your dreams, your goals, what you want to be, what you don't want to be, and most especially the love of your life. I know that some may say, to become the most rational human being, you mustn't stick too much to your emotions, and the key to becoming happier, is to detach yourself from them.

Although that's not always the case.

I've tried being that rational person, and I found out that trying to escape your emotions may not always be the solution to all sadness. Basically, I became even more miserable trying to figure out how to push all my feelings away and blocking everyone else who tried to care. If there was one thing I learned from that experience, it was to never do it again. Running away from feels, and trying to eliminate all types of emotions, will only result to you being unable to control them once they're there.

Previously in this blog, as a younger Angel, I posted a list of things that can make a person smile. It's very simple, and very young and hip. It depicted the me that was very youthful and undoubtedly problem-free.

Eventually, I had to grow up. Problems of my own arose and what I saw simple back then became all too complicated now. Life began to be much more of a headache than of a fruitcake the moment I turned 18. I know, it may still be young, but at the peak of this age you'll realize that not everything tops itself with glitter, and it's not always rainbows, butterflies, pancakes and puppies. Rain comes, butterflies die, pancakes rot and puppies grow old.

But that doesn't mean you can love them any less.

Let me tell you why.

1. To live is an incredibly great adventure.
Whatever life has to offer to you, there are ways and there are ways where you can turn every obstacle into an adventure. These challenges are opportunities not every individual gets. We aren't machines. We are capable of feeling all kinds of things, and it's wonderful to think that we are able to smile, and to laugh and to jump and to sing, even if life throws all kinds of tomatoes and lemons toward us. We have the power to make tomato soup and lemonade. Life is so beautiful, and these rows build you. Everything happens for a greater good. You just have to look at it through a different lens.

2. There is so much to appreciate.
Blessings come in all shapes and sizes. It may not be a blessing to you now, but slowly it will turn into lessons that you can apply in life and will help you grow stronger. A break up? That is just one of the most painful types of blessings God could ever give you. The bad things that happen don't define you as a person. You don't have to move on from them. Put these memories in your back pocket and take them with you to the next chapter of your life. Live on without them, but don't forget to take the marks and scars with you. The way you see things affect the things you learn to appreciate. Almost everything in life has a side that will make you love whatever it is that you have. Give your dog a hug, kiss your mom good night, look your girlfriend in the eye and tell her you love her. You may not always appreciate what you have, but in the end these are things you don't just appreciate. These are things you will love for the rest of your life.

3. Things are capable of lasting forever.
I believe in the concept of forever. The point of you being unhappy, is just another reason for you to forget about being sad. It is possible for you to be lonely all your life if you don't stop holding on to the things that make you feel down. Happiness is something that we choose, and just like sadness, it is capable of lasting forever only if you decide that it will. You can't engage into something without committing to it. Whether it is to break up or to make up, stick to that decision. To last forever is an awfully wonderful aspiration.

4. Things are capable of ending.
Now, don't get me wrong. This may be contradictory to my last statement of the concept of forever. What I mean here is that things are only able to end if we choose for it to end. And this decision is what may be able to last forever. Keep hold of the people you choose to stay in your life, and let go of the things that hinder you from becoming the happy, beautiful person that you are.

5. People appreciate you.
Not everything you don't like about yourself, everyone hates just as much. You have no room for insecurities. Confidence is something you give to yourself, and people appreciate you more when you have it. Love your entire being. Don't center your world onto someone who doesn't show appreciation towards you. It's their loss. Inhale the love and exhale all the hate. You are you, and people like that about you. Not just someone, but a lot of people who are thankful that you're alive. Live with that as a motivation to go on. To keep going on.

6. Things are uncontrollable.
Moments come and go, people come and leave, things are uncontrollable. It's not up to you to dictate every single thing that's going to happen in your life. It's only a matter of how you face these things, and how you turn them into something that you need in order to sustain that inner peace of yours. Things don't happen because you let them happen, and they don't always happen just because you make them happen. Things just happen, and you have to be flexible about it. Life doesn't always adjust to your needs. You have to keep up with life's pace, and you have to control whatever it is that you know you are capable of controlling. Otherwise, you have to let things happen, and cope up, adjust, look at it positively, and slowly, it will start to be all up to you. It's up to you how you feel about things, and it's up to you to do the things you want, but you have to accept that you cannot force someone to tell the truth if their entire being chooses to tell a lie. Stick to you, and stick to those ideas you agree with. You cannot be forced, as much as you cannot force anyone else. You can't stop the world from turning on its axis, but you can turn your frown upside down.

7. The clock ticks, but only because it was invented to do so.
Time is a manmade concept. Age is something human beings created. These things go by because it's nature's will. You can stop your clock, but your heart will keep beating. You can stop counting your birthdays, but that doesn't mean you stop celebrating. Time is gold, but patience is a virtue. You can focus on solving your problems, but that doesn't mean you aren't allowed to keep track of your blessings. Life is a gift. Remember your past, but don't leave your heart there. Live by the present, but don't forget to look forward to the future. Age is just a number, the clock is just an invention. Give yourself time for improvement. Lessons don't have expiration dates. It is never too late to realize the good things.

Everything else in this world dies, but that doesn't mean your happiness can be one of them. Your grandma is smiling down on you, your dog is outside waiting for you to snuggle him, your mom is in the kitchen cooking your breakfast, your dad has news about something he found on the internet, your sister found out something about you that she cannot wait to tease you for, and your brother might be planning an evil scheme that one day will be the laughing stock of your friends, your ex is out there with someone else she calls her love, your love is out there treasuring the love that you have, your best friend is out there loving someone of his or her own, and your enemies cannot wait to be proved wrong. There is always a calm after a storm, and there will come another storm, and another calm. Life has to go on. We don't function so much to make a living, that we have to stop living a life. Please don't take depression to heart. It beats for a reason, and until you have fully found that reason, don't make it stop. Pray for happiness and strive for it. It can only be done by you. :)

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